diff --git a/man/mu-find.1 b/man/mu-find.1
index 53e23954..cc0e69ac 100644
--- a/man/mu-find.1
+++ b/man/mu-find.1
@@ -42,7 +42,7 @@ The search pattern is taken as a command-line parameter. If the search
 parameter consists of multiple parts (as in the example) they are
 treated as if there were a logical \fBand\fR between them.
 
-For details on the possible queries, see 
+For details on the possible queries, see
 
 
 
@@ -209,17 +209,17 @@ details of the bookmarks file.
 
 
 .TP
-\fB\-\-skip\-dups\fR,\fB-u\fR whenever there are multiple messages with the
-same name, only show the first one. This is useful if you have copies of the
-same message, which is a common occurrence when using e.g. Gmail together with
-\fBofflineimap\fR.
+\fB\-\-include\-dups\fR,\fB-u\fR by default, whenever there are multiple
+messages with the same name, only show the first one. This is useful if you have
+copies of the same message, which is a common occurrence when using e.g. Gmail
+together with \fBofflineimap\fR. Use this option to turn that behavior off.
 
 .TP
-\fB\-\-include\-related\fR,\fB-r\fR also include messages being refered to by
-the matched messages -- i.e.. include messages that are part of the same
-message thread as some matched messages. This is useful if you want
-Gmail-style 'conversations'. Note, finding these related messages make
-searches slower.
+\fB\-\-skip\-related\fR,\fB-r\fR by default, the results include messages being
+refered to by the matched messages -- i.e.. include messages that are part of
+the same message thread as some matched messages. This is useful if you want
+Gmail-style 'conversations'. Note, finding these related messages make searches
+slightly slower. Use this option to turn that behavior off.
 
 .TP
 \fB\-t\fR, \fB\-\-threads\fR show messages in a 'threaded' format -- that is,
diff --git a/mu/mu-cmd-find.c b/mu/mu-cmd-find.c
index bf3e55e7..d5e7320d 100644
--- a/mu/mu-cmd-find.c
+++ b/mu/mu-cmd-find.c
@@ -130,9 +130,9 @@ run_query (MuQuery *xapian, const gchar *query, MuConfig *opts,  GError **err)
 	qflags = MU_QUERY_FLAG_NONE;
 	if (opts->reverse)
 		qflags |= MU_QUERY_FLAG_DESCENDING;
-	if (opts->skip_dups)
+	if (!opts->include_dups)
 		qflags |= MU_QUERY_FLAG_SKIP_DUPS;
-	if (opts->include_related)
+	if (!opts->skip_related)
 		qflags |= MU_QUERY_FLAG_INCLUDE_RELATED;
 	if (opts->threads)
 		qflags |= MU_QUERY_FLAG_THREADS;
diff --git a/mu/mu-config.c b/mu/mu-config.c
index 3f1b4051..839a1a04 100644
--- a/mu/mu-config.c
+++ b/mu/mu-config.c
@@ -211,12 +211,24 @@ config_options_group_find (void)
 		 "use a bookmarked query", "<bookmark>"},
 		{"reverse", 'z', 0, G_OPTION_ARG_NONE, &MU_CONFIG.reverse,
 		 "sort in reverse (descending) order (z -> a)", NULL},
-		{"skip-dups", 'u', 0, G_OPTION_ARG_NONE,
-		 &MU_CONFIG.skip_dups,
+		/* default is to skip dups (messages with the same message-id);
+		 * option left for backward compatibility */
+		{"skip-dups", 'u', G_OPTION_FLAG_HIDDEN|G_OPTION_FLAG_REVERSE,
+		 G_OPTION_ARG_NONE, &MU_CONFIG.include_dups,
 		 "show only the first of messages duplicates (false)", NULL},
-		{"include-related", 'r', 0, G_OPTION_ARG_NONE,
-		 &MU_CONFIG.include_related,
-		 "include related messages in results (false)", NULL},
+		{"include-dups", 'u', 0, G_OPTION_ARG_NONE,
+		 &MU_CONFIG.include_dups,
+		 "do not skip all but the first message with some message-id",
+		 NULL},
+		/* default is to include related messages; option left for
+		 * backward compatibility */
+		{"include-related", 'r', G_OPTION_FLAG_HIDDEN | G_OPTION_FLAG_REVERSE,
+		 G_OPTION_ARG_NONE, &MU_CONFIG.skip_related,
+		 "include related messages in results", NULL},
+		{"skip-related", 'r', 0, G_OPTION_ARG_NONE,
+		 &MU_CONFIG.skip_related,
+		 "do not include related messages in the results (false)", NULL},
+
 		{"linksdir", 0, 0, G_OPTION_ARG_STRING, &MU_CONFIG.linksdir,
 		 "output as symbolic links to a target maildir", "<dir>"},
 		{"clearlinks", 0, 0, G_OPTION_ARG_NONE, &MU_CONFIG.clearlinks,
diff --git a/mu/mu-config.h b/mu/mu-config.h
index 932b58fd..5cbdf247 100644
--- a/mu/mu-config.h
+++ b/mu/mu-config.h
@@ -140,12 +140,11 @@ struct _MuConfig {
 	gchar		*exec;		/* command to execute on the
 					 * files for the matched
 					 * messages */
-	gboolean        skip_dups;        /* if there are multiple
-					 * messages with the same
-					 * msgid, show only the first
-					 * one */
-	gboolean        include_related; /* included related messages
-					  * in results */
+	gboolean        include_dups;    /* if there are multiple messages with
+					  * the same msgid, show all of them,
+					  * not just the first */
+	gboolean        skip_related;      /* do not include related messages in
+					  * results */
 	/* for find and cind */
 	time_t            after;          /* only show messages or
 					   * addresses last seen after
diff --git a/mu/tests/test-mu-cmd.c b/mu/tests/test-mu-cmd.c
index ffd0336b..870236d0 100644
--- a/mu/tests/test-mu-cmd.c
+++ b/mu/tests/test-mu-cmd.c
@@ -88,7 +88,7 @@ search (const char* query, unsigned expected)
 {
 	gchar *cmdline, *output, *erroutput;
 
-	cmdline = g_strdup_printf ("%s find --muhome=%s %s",
+	cmdline = g_strdup_printf ("%s find --muhome=%s %s --skip-related --include-dups",
 				   MU_PROGRAM, DBPATH, query);
 
 	if (g_test_verbose())